{"id":10182,"date":"2026-06-16T13:10:09","date_gmt":"2026-06-16T06:10:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.bautruc.com\/?p=10182"},"modified":"2026-06-16T13:10:09","modified_gmt":"2026-06-16T06:10:09","slug":"so-sanh-ban-than-voi-nguoi-khac","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bautruc.com\/en\/so-sanh-ban-than-voi-nguoi-khac\/","title":{"rendered":"T\u1ea1i Sao B\u1ea1n Hay So S\u00e1nh B\u1ea3n Th\u00e2n V\u1edbi Ng\u01b0\u1eddi Kh\u00e1c \u2013 V\u00e0 C\u00e1ch D\u1eebng L\u1ea1i"},"content":{"rendered":"

B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 bao gi\u1edd l\u01b0\u1edbt Facebook 5 ph\u00fat r\u1ed3i ch\u1ee3t th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh k\u00e9m c\u1ecfi h\u01a1n h\u1eb3n? Ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n c\u00f9ng l\u1edbp \u0111\u00e3 mua nh\u00e0, ng\u01b0\u1eddi quen \u0111\u0103ng \u1ea3nh du l\u1ecbch ch\u00e2u \u00c2u, c\u00f2n b\u1ea1n th\u00ec… v\u1eabn \u0111ang loay hoay v\u1edbi th\u00e1ng n\u00e0y. \u0110\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n y\u1ebfu \u0111u\u1ed1i \u2013 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 b\u1ed9 n\u00e3o \u0111ang l\u00e0m \u0111\u00fang nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 c\u1ee7a n\u00f3, d\u00f9 \u0111\u00f4i khi kh\u00f4ng gi\u00fap \u00edch g\u00ec cho b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n\n

T\u1ea1i Sao N\u00e3o B\u1ed9 Lu\u00f4n Mu\u1ed1n So S\u00e1nh?<\/h2>\n\n

N\u0103m 1954, nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc Leon Festinger \u0111\u1ec1 xu\u1ea5t l\u00fd thuy\u1ebft so s\u00e1nh x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i<\/strong>: con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch so s\u00e1nh v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 c\u01a1 ch\u1ebf ti\u1ebfn h\u00f3a \u2013 t\u1ed5 ti\u00ean ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n bi\u1ebft m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ee9ng \u1edf \u0111\u00e2u trong nh\u00f3m \u0111\u1ec3 sinh t\u1ed3n.<\/p>\n\n

V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e0: b\u1ed9 n\u00e3o \u0111\u00f3 gi\u1edd \u0111ang s\u1ed1ng trong th\u1eddi \u0111\u1ea1i m\u1ea1ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, n\u01a1i b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 so s\u00e1nh v\u1edbi h\u00e0ng x\u00f3m, m\u00e0 v\u1edbi h\u00e0ng tri\u1ec7u ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u00ean to\u00e0n th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi. K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3? C\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c “m\u00ecnh ch\u01b0a \u0111\u1ee7 t\u1ed1t” xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean h\u01a1n bao gi\u1edd h\u1ebft.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"L\u01b0\u1edbt<\/figure>\n\n\n

Khi So S\u00e1nh Tr\u1edf Th\u00e0nh “B\u1eaby”<\/h2>\n\n

M\u1ea1ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i \u2013 cu\u1ed9c tri\u1ec3n l\u00e3m highlight reel<\/h3>\n\n

Instagram, Facebook, TikTok ch\u1ec9 hi\u1ec7n ph\u1ea7n \u0111\u1eb9p nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Kh\u00f4ng ai \u0111\u0103ng \u1ea3nh ng\u00e0y m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi, lo \u00e2u hay th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i. Khi b\u1ea1n so s\u00e1nh to\u00e0n b\u1ed9 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng th\u1eadt c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh<\/strong> v\u1edbi ph\u1ea7n highlight c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c<\/strong>, k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 lu\u00f4n l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n thua.<\/p>\n\n

M\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u \u0111\u0103ng tr\u00ean Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology cho th\u1ea5y ch\u1ec9 c\u1ea7n gi\u1ea3m d\u00f9ng m\u1ea1ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i xu\u1ed1ng 30 ph\u00fat\/ng\u00e0y, c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n v\u00e0 tr\u1ea7m c\u1ea3m gi\u1ea3m \u0111\u00e1ng k\u1ec3 sau 3 tu\u1ea7n.<\/p>\n\n

\u00c1p l\u1ef1c “con nh\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta”<\/h3>\n\n

Ng\u01b0\u1eddi Vi\u1ec7t c\u00f2n c\u00f3 th\u00eam m\u1ed9t \u00e1p l\u1ef1c \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t: so s\u00e1nh t\u1eeb gia \u0111\u00ecnh. “Con nh\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta h\u1ecdc gi\u1ecfi h\u01a1n”, “B\u1ea1n b\u00e8 m\u00e0y c\u00f3 vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m t\u1ed1t r\u1ed3i \u0111\u1ea5y”… Nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u n\u00f3i t\u01b0\u1edfng nh\u01b0 v\u00f4 t\u00ecnh n\u00e0y t\u00edch l\u0169y theo n\u0103m th\u00e1ng v\u00e0 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh gi\u1ecdng n\u00f3i trong \u0111\u1ea7u b\u1ea1n \u2013 ngay c\u1ea3 khi kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ai n\u00f3i n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n\n

7 C\u00e1ch \u0110\u1ec3 D\u1eebng So S\u00e1nh V\u00e0 T\u00ecm L\u1ea1i Ch\u00ednh M\u00ecnh<\/h2>\n\n

1. Nh\u1eadn ra b\u1ea1n \u0111ang so s\u00e1nh \u2013 v\u00e0 t\u1ea1m d\u1eebng<\/h3>\n\n

B\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean l\u00e0 nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c. Khi b\u1ea1n nh\u1eadn ra m\u00ecnh \u0111ang ngh\u0129 “sao ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta…?” \u2013 h\u00e3y d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi: “T\u00f4i \u0111ang so s\u00e1nh c\u00e1i g\u00ec v\u1edbi c\u00e1i g\u00ec?” Th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00ec b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 so s\u00e1nh ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u00f4ng c\u00f4ng b\u1eb1ng.<\/p>\n\n

2. \u0110\u1ecbnh ngh\u0129a “th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng” theo c\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n<\/h3>\n\n

B\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u2013 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i theo ti\u00eau chu\u1ea9n x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i hay mong mu\u1ed1n c\u1ee7a gia \u0111\u00ecnh. Khi b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau ri\u00eang r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng, s\u1ef1 so s\u00e1nh v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c s\u1ebd b\u1edbt \u0111i \u00fd ngh\u0129a.<\/p>\n\n

3. Gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n m\u1ea1ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i c\u00f3 ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u00edch<\/h3>\n\n

Kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n x\u00f3a t\u00e0i kho\u1ea3n. Ch\u1ec9 c\u1ea7n \u0111\u1eb7t gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n: 20\u201330 ph\u00fat\/ng\u00e0y, t\u1eaft th\u00f4ng b\u00e1o, kh\u00f4ng l\u01b0\u1edbt tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi ng\u1ee7. H\u00e3y theo d\u00f5i nh\u1eefng t\u00e0i kho\u1ea3n truy\u1ec1n c\u1ea3m h\u1ee9ng th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 \u2013 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eefng t\u00e0i kho\u1ea3n khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y thua k\u00e9m.<\/p>\n\n

4. So s\u00e1nh b\u1ea1n h\u00f4m nay v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n ng\u00e0y h\u00f4m qua<\/h3>\n\n

C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi \u0111\u00fang kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i “T\u00f4i c\u00f3 b\u1eb1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta kh\u00f4ng?” m\u00e0 l\u00e0 “T\u00f4i c\u00f3 t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n so v\u1edbi th\u00e1ng tr\u01b0\u1edbc kh\u00f4ng?” Ti\u1ebfn b\u1ed9 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n \u2013 d\u00f9 nh\u1ecf \u2013 \u00fd ngh\u0129a h\u01a1n r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u so v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ee9ng \u0111\u1ea7u b\u1ea3ng x\u1ebfp h\u1ea1ng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n\n

5. Th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh bi\u1ebft \u01a1n m\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y<\/h3>\n\n

Vi\u1ebft ra 3 \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft \u01a1n m\u1ed7i s\u00e1ng \u2013 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe, m\u1ed9t b\u1eefa s\u00e1ng ngon, hay m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n t\u1ed1t. Khi n\u00e3o quen v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 bi\u1ebft \u01a1n, n\u00f3 \u00edt c\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng gian h\u01a1n cho s\u1ef1 so s\u00e1nh v\u00e0 ghen t\u1ecb.<\/p>\n\n

6. Nh\u1edb r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ea5y to\u00e0n b\u1ed9 b\u1ee9c tranh<\/h3>\n\n

Ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 v\u1ebb “ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o” \u0111\u00f3? R\u1ea5t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ecd c\u0169ng \u0111ang lo l\u1eafng theo c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c. N\u1ee3 ng\u00e2n h\u00e0ng, \u00e1p l\u1ef1c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe \u2013 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng n\u00e0o c\u0169ng c\u00f3 ph\u1ea7n khu\u1ea5t. B\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng g\u00ec h\u1ecd mu\u1ed1n b\u1ea1n th\u1ea5y.<\/p>\n\n

7. N\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n tin t\u01b0\u1edfng<\/h3>\n\n

\u0110\u00f4i khi v\u00f2ng l\u1eb7p so s\u00e1nh trong \u0111\u1ea7u c\u1ea7n m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1eeb b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u00e1 v\u1ee1. Chia s\u1ebb v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n b\u00e8, ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n \u2013 ho\u1eb7c chuy\u00ean gia t\u00e2m l\u00fd n\u1ebfu c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c n\u00e0y \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng nhi\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ebfn cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n\n

Khi N\u00e0o C\u1ea7n T\u00ecm G\u1eb7p Chuy\u00ean Gia?<\/h2>\n\n

N\u1ebfu so s\u00e1nh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n \u0111i k\u00e8m v\u1edbi c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c tuy\u1ec7t v\u1ecdng, m\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c k\u00e9o d\u00e0i, ho\u1eb7c \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn gi\u1ea5c ng\u1ee7 v\u00e0 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, \u0111\u00e2y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u c\u1ee7a lo \u00e2u ho\u1eb7c tr\u1ea7m c\u1ea3m. \u0110\u1eebng ng\u1ea1i t\u00ecm g\u1eb7p chuy\u00ean gia t\u00e2m l\u00fd \u2013 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 b\u01b0\u1edbc d\u0169ng c\u1ea3m, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i y\u1ebfu \u0111u\u1ed1i.<\/p>\n\n

So s\u00e1nh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n l\u00e0 b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng \u2013 nh\u01b0ng b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb b\u1eaft bu\u1ed9c ph\u1ea3i chi\u1ec1u theo n\u00f3. B\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u1eeb h\u00f4m nay, h\u00e3y th\u1eed m\u1ed9t vi\u1ec7c nh\u1ecf: t\u1eaft th\u00f4ng b\u00e1o m\u1ea1ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i trong 1 gi\u1edd v\u00e0 d\u00f9ng th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 cho ch\u00ednh b\u1ea1n. H\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 duy nh\u1ea5t \u2013 kh\u00f4ng ai c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111i thay b\u1ea1n, v\u00e0 c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng ai c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 so s\u00e1nh \u0111\u00fang v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n\n

Ngu\u1ed3n tham kh\u1ea3o:<\/strong> healthline.com, psychcentral.com<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 bao gi\u1edd l\u01b0\u1edbt m\u1ea1ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i 5 ph\u00fat r\u1ed3i ch\u1ee3t th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh k\u00e9m c\u1ecfi h\u01a1n h\u1eb3n? Hi\u1ec3u l\u00fd do v\u00e0 7 c\u00e1ch th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf \u0111\u1ec3 d\u1eebng so s\u00e1nh, t\u00ecm l\u1ea1i ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":10180,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"0","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"disabled","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"set","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[37],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10182","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-suc-khoe-tinh-than"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bautruc.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10182","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bautruc.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bautruc.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bautruc.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bautruc.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10182"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.bautruc.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10182\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":10219,"href":"https:\/\/www.bautruc.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10182\/revisions\/10219"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bautruc.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/10180"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bautruc.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10182"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bautruc.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10182"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bautruc.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10182"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}